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Family Support plays a critical role in the treatment of someone recovering from substance abuse. Research shows that when an individual has support from family and friends, he/she is likely to recover much faster than someone who does not have that support. Many family members unintentionally feed the addiction by their lack of training on how to help their loved one. Family members take on many different roles including:
The dependent is the individual who is battling the substance abuse or addiction. He/she is trying to get their life back on track. This individual uses their "drug of choice" to medicate a wound or to satisfy a prolonged, unmet need. The substance abuse is one prong in a series of unhealthy coping behaviors that takes over that individual's life and robs them of true freedom.
The enabler is the family member who struggles with confrontation and uses whatever means necessary to bring "peace" to the...
Validation is a critical component which communicates "I care". It doesn't necessarily mean "I agree with you" or "you are right". It communicates "you matter". In a world of political correctness, we define trivial things as right versus wrong. This creates isolation and segregation with the "us" versus "them" mentality. We force people to pick sides based on their beliefs or ideals and judge them accordingly.
We are programmed to defend ourselves, our words, our actions instead of looking at how those words or actions affects others. Behind words spoken or actions taken are real human beings who are works in progress. No one is perfect and we can make the world a better place by extending grace to one another.
Validation acknowledges that "your feelings are real". It doesn't give us permission to judge those feelings or to tell that individual that they are not entitled to feel those emotions. We can begin by saying "I'm sorry you feel that way". Validation takes the wall down...